Hi All,

Many thanks for everyone's replies.  Sounds like everyone is on the same page as I am.  Neil posted a link to a very nice photo of a spade connector:

http://www.turbomr2.com/MR2/HowTo/Engine_Fans/Tripac_Fan/Images/Relay_Connectors_8212.JPG

I think VW recognized the high current requirements of the headlight connector (even if they didn't do such a good job on the switch itself!) because the connector looks fancier than your typical spade connector.  Here are some photos of the front and back:

https://picasaweb.google.com/xxtabe/Vana
gons#5774313738746114370

or

http://tinyurl.com/c28zgst

It looks like it's silver plated to keep the resistance down but it doesn't look like your typical spade connector.  I'll poke in there some more but if I get no action I might just cut the plastic housing apart.  Sigh.

Thanks all!

tabe johnson/90MV